Kirill thinks I’m awesome!! Yes, it’s true. Controversial party photographer and self-described ‘Slut Whisperer" thinks I, as well as all girls for that matter, are awesome, due to the fact that if you meet one randomly, “a few drinks later she has your penis in her mouth”. It is this statement, as well as others like it, that have given party photographer Kirill Bichutsky, better known as Kirill Was Here, a basis to form his career off of. Known best for "pouring champagne on sluts” and taking photos of it, Kirill has built himself up quite the controversial profile, one which had almost gone unnoticed by me until this morning, when I happened to stumble on something that had shown up on my timeline. So without further ado, here is my open letter to him.
A friend of a friend had posted about how she was receiving a large amount of backlash from people who were upset that she had gotten a certain 'artist’ banned from a Halifax venue. I messaged my friend asking who the artist was, and he responded by sending me the link to this CBC article:http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/party-photographer-kirill-bichutsky-barred-from-halifax-event-1.3031241.
After reading the article, I decided to take a look at your Twitter page to see how bad the damage really was. I didn’t have to scroll very far to find the tweet about girls being awesome. Scrolling a little further down, I found another diamond in the rough: “Why can’t girls take a joke as easily as they can take a dick” (April 10th). At this point, I was pretty disgusted, and subsequently messaged my friends with this new information. After seeing articles about you plastered all over MTL Blog, we finally found out that on May 8th, you are slated to come to Muzique, a well known club in the heart of Montreal’s nightlife scene.
At a time where I should have been studying for exams, I instead found myself sending an email to the establishment requesting them to prevent you from coming to their club. Whether they follow through or not is something only time will tell. But I could not for a second sit back and let a man who parades around with openly misogynistic content under his belt be readily accepted into these kinds of establishments, no questions asked.
Yes, this all goes back to nightclub culture, and my efforts are quite surely not going to do anything to change the dynamics of the way these venues work. But that doesn’t mean I can’t try.
And yes, maybe by doing this I am giving you the attention and shock value you so craves. But as a female, I personally feels disgusted and insulted, knowing that in your eyes, I am comparable to “the fat girls from Nova Scotia” who were mad about you “coming to the party”, and that while I have no intention of ever attending an event you are affiliated with, I wouldn’t “get into the party anyways” because “cats can’t be [my] +1”.
And on the subject of your content for one second, while I’m surprised that I’ve exercised this much self-control and not been the “retard to cry 'BULLYING’ and report u”, you have made an effort to address the content of your social media postings after you were banned from The Argyle Grill and Bar in Halifax. According to you, you’re “an ugly Russian Jew who likes to go to parties and take photos of hot girls. Oh and poke fun at everyone including myself on social media. The rule of comedy is to make fun of everything or make fun of nothing. So yes, I make gay jokes (my sister is gay). I make fat jokes (I’m fat). I make Jew jokes (I’m a Jew). And, oh yes, I make fun of everything else in between”.
The fact that you know someone who is part of the LGBTQ community or that you associate yourself with a certain religious identity is not a Get Out of Jail Free card. Even if you don’t get offended by too many things and constantly self-depricate, this does not make up for the fact that many of your comments are extremely offensive, way past the point of being comedic. You say that it saddens you that “in this day and age with all the horrible shit happening in the world, I am the problem”? I hope when you talk about “horrible shit”, you recognize that it constitutes things like slut-shaming and the objectification of women and homophobia-based violence, because those things are all horrible things that your words and your attitude proliferate and encourage.
And let’s talk about your job for a second. Most photographers take beautiful pictures that can be considered art, while you take photos of “happy, smiling, laughing girls willingly asking me to pour champagne on them because they don’t give a fuck what others think!” And who am I to say this isn’t art? Your photos obviously attract a certain type of crowd and have elevated you to the platform you are on today. However, I feel as though your statements saying that people who criticize the way your work portrays women “don’t like it when women think for themselves” and “don’t want women that are in charge of their own bodies, fate, and consequences” is a little bit problematic. Obviously you belong to the exact crowd you accuse of this behaviour, or at least you did on April 9th, when you oh so eloquently tweeted “Why do women like men who are smart, goal oriented and have a sense of humor? Cause opposites attract!” Which one is it, oh great slut whisperer? Do you only think a woman is in control of her fate and consequences and can think for herself when she is naked and letting you pour champagne all over her? You cannot pick and choose situations in which you “support” strong women. This doesn’t make you valiant- it makes you a hypocrite, and an asshole.
At this point, I have about 24 hours until I go to take my Microeconomics final exam, and I have yet to actually learn about anything we did in the course this year. But I would rather my GPA take a hit than my conscience.
One last thing before I try to force myself to study: I intend to post this all over social media and I really hope you see it. Am I worried that you will compare me to one of the “fat girls” from Halifax that you so dislike? Not particularly. In the words of you yourself “If you’re too stupid to realize that while I make fun of fat girls on social media, in real life I love them. They give the best blowjobs”.
All quotes attributed to Bichutsky have been taken from his Twitter account, @KirillWasHere. Photo taken from CBC.ca.